What I did instead of MWFF
Dec. 7th, 2015 10:10 am![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png)
The good news: It appears that Midwest Furfest was bigger than ever (5600+ attendees, almost 1600 fursuits in the parade, $62,000 raised for this year's charity "Save-a-Vet".)
The bad news: Though I'd agreed to do a panel with Sparf and Tempe O'Kun, and did register for the con, when push came to shove it was simply not practical for me to get there. I had originally thought I could just drive down for Saturday, but it turns out that parking is non-existent or quite expensive in the area, and dubious at night. The panel was from 8 to 9 pm on Saturday, which would have meant returning alone in the dark to a remote parking lot to drive back home.
I don't much care for driving to begin with, and in a congested unfamiliar area, in the dark, this didn't sound at all appealing. So I thought maybe public transportation would be better. Well, it's theoretically possible to get to the convention hotel from my home if I take Metra commuter rail from Woodstock to Jefferson Park in Chicago, and then transfer to the CTA Blue line to get to Rosemont. It's about a quarter mile walk from the station to the hotel. This would have been workable except that the weekend train schedules are sparse (to put it politely) and with the panel ending at 9 pm, there was only a single train to get me back to Woodstock. Miss that connection for any reason (and there are many possible reasons, from time overruns to a CTA delay which is fairly common) and I'd have been stranded. Even if it worked, I would have gotten back to Woodstock after midnight, and likely have had to stand around in a nearly deserted station at Jefferson Park for 30-40 minutes which is never a pleasant prospect after dark. I've had unpleasant and near-disastrous experiences with that before.
So in the end, I gave up on the whole idea. I felt bad about backing out of the panel, of course, but I knew that Sparf and Tempe would manage it just fine. So I sent my apologies and missed the entire convention. The last time I actually attended MWFF was in 2008. The con has nearly quadrupled in size since then, which is good I guess, but makes it so big that I'm reluctant to go at all. This experience makes it even less likely that I'll try again. Friends who were actually there found the crowds so oppressive at times that they had to leave the hotel to find open and relatively quieter space. I'm very prone to claustrophobia, so avoiding such scenes is probably a better choice for me. I was looking forward to the art show, and a chance to hear Fox Amoore live as well as seeing some friends from out of state, but it didn't work out.
On the other hoof, I did get to attend two of my husband's three live performances that took place this weekend. I would have missed those had I gone to the convention. Saturday morning he was with the Kishwaukee Ramblers at the Woodstock Farmers' Market. That evening the Ramblers appeared again at the Boone County Conservation District's annual Christmas Walk in Belvidere. The setting for that event is a park that includes some historic cabins and a one room schoolhouse that has been reconstructed on the site. The Ramblers played in the schoolhouse by lamplight, where visitors to the park could stop for refreshments and warm drinks after touring the cabins and the blacksmith shop along trails illuminated by luminaria set along the ground. Here is a photo of the 19th century schoolhouse setting, with my husband Gary on the left playing concertina and hammered dulcimer.

The bad news: Though I'd agreed to do a panel with Sparf and Tempe O'Kun, and did register for the con, when push came to shove it was simply not practical for me to get there. I had originally thought I could just drive down for Saturday, but it turns out that parking is non-existent or quite expensive in the area, and dubious at night. The panel was from 8 to 9 pm on Saturday, which would have meant returning alone in the dark to a remote parking lot to drive back home.
I don't much care for driving to begin with, and in a congested unfamiliar area, in the dark, this didn't sound at all appealing. So I thought maybe public transportation would be better. Well, it's theoretically possible to get to the convention hotel from my home if I take Metra commuter rail from Woodstock to Jefferson Park in Chicago, and then transfer to the CTA Blue line to get to Rosemont. It's about a quarter mile walk from the station to the hotel. This would have been workable except that the weekend train schedules are sparse (to put it politely) and with the panel ending at 9 pm, there was only a single train to get me back to Woodstock. Miss that connection for any reason (and there are many possible reasons, from time overruns to a CTA delay which is fairly common) and I'd have been stranded. Even if it worked, I would have gotten back to Woodstock after midnight, and likely have had to stand around in a nearly deserted station at Jefferson Park for 30-40 minutes which is never a pleasant prospect after dark. I've had unpleasant and near-disastrous experiences with that before.
So in the end, I gave up on the whole idea. I felt bad about backing out of the panel, of course, but I knew that Sparf and Tempe would manage it just fine. So I sent my apologies and missed the entire convention. The last time I actually attended MWFF was in 2008. The con has nearly quadrupled in size since then, which is good I guess, but makes it so big that I'm reluctant to go at all. This experience makes it even less likely that I'll try again. Friends who were actually there found the crowds so oppressive at times that they had to leave the hotel to find open and relatively quieter space. I'm very prone to claustrophobia, so avoiding such scenes is probably a better choice for me. I was looking forward to the art show, and a chance to hear Fox Amoore live as well as seeing some friends from out of state, but it didn't work out.
On the other hoof, I did get to attend two of my husband's three live performances that took place this weekend. I would have missed those had I gone to the convention. Saturday morning he was with the Kishwaukee Ramblers at the Woodstock Farmers' Market. That evening the Ramblers appeared again at the Boone County Conservation District's annual Christmas Walk in Belvidere. The setting for that event is a park that includes some historic cabins and a one room schoolhouse that has been reconstructed on the site. The Ramblers played in the schoolhouse by lamplight, where visitors to the park could stop for refreshments and warm drinks after touring the cabins and the blacksmith shop along trails illuminated by luminaria set along the ground. Here is a photo of the 19th century schoolhouse setting, with my husband Gary on the left playing concertina and hammered dulcimer.

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Date: 2015-12-07 05:45 pm (UTC)There are some conventions I no longer attend because they have become too large or otherwise unwieldy, such as San Diego Comic Con. Hopefully you get a chance to go to one of the smaller ones some time - they're easier to enjoy. But if in general cons aren't for you, that's okay too, of course!
Have fun, be well, and may winter be kind to you and yours.
Light and laughter,
SongCoyote
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Date: 2015-12-09 12:25 pm (UTC)In 2012 I went to a couple of smaller cons. They were much better from my point of view, at least in terms of accessibility and interactions. One of those (FCN, near Detroit) ceased operation two years later, in part because the attendance had grown large enough that the original organizers no longer wanted to deal with the logistics. A restructured organization has continued it as Motor City Fur Con but I haven't been back and it continues to grow just as the others seem to do.
The other was in Indianapolis (IFC) and I particularly enjoyed that but again it has grown and changed to another hotel so I expect the same issues are developing there. You know there is something problematic when all the available hotel space is reserved nine or ten months in advance of the event and often within mere hours of the block opening for reservation.
In both cases I was enabled by friends who shared the burden of making the logistics work. I was along for the ride but someone else made it work. I'm not an eager traveler and usually manage to leave home for any period of time only when forced to do so.
In the end, though, I'm just not social on that level. Masses of strangers overwhelm and oppress me and I run like a mouse looking for a place to hide. Prospects like a crowded sports stadium or large theatre are almost intolerable. I can do it, but the motivation has to be huge and the force of will required is exhausting, which pretty much cancels out any benefit of attending. Even a crowded elevator is difficult to endure.
Years ago I was able to handle Orchestra Hall or the Lyric Opera House because the music kept me from thinking about the surroundings, but I seem to have lost that ability. In fact, the reason I pried Gary loose from Chicago and insisted on moving out here was pretty much my growing claustrophobia at being hemmed in on all sides by so many people and so much traffic. After 17 years, even this area has changed to the point where I feel it isn't remote enough.
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Date: 2015-12-11 04:37 am (UTC)MFF is too big for me too now
Date: 2016-01-08 08:33 am (UTC)Bear had to go to our hotel room and sit in a hot bath for an hour because the crowd was so opressive it really got to him. Even I felt it while in my Steed fursuit. I did not join the parade because it was so long but I did watch from the bottom of the escalator, which was a good spot.
Plus no model railroad furs or horse fur meet or much of interest other than I learned a few things about fursuit making.
I so love fursuiting that I enjoyed showing off and hugging kids and having my pictures taken hundreds of times and being nose petted and comments like "Nice assless chaps". Gee. Grin.
So that will be my last MFF. I am already registered for three much smaller cons in Michigan and one in Cincinatti, Ohio. Bear seems to enjoy fursuiting too. YES!
Your old yeller flap pony, Imperator.
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Date: 2016-01-08 11:14 am (UTC)I'm thinking wishfully about Motor City or Indy, but probably won't get it together. My two friends who made it work last time seem to have lost interest in cons as well, which kind of takes the wind out of my sails before they are unfurled.
Saw the pictures of Bear in suit. Nice head design. I'm sure it will be even better once it's a full costume.
Much love and pets,
Rider